Saturday, July 27, 2013

A Market Stand

This morning at market, an interesting exchange took place between a gentleman buying produce with food stamps, the lady working behind the produce stand, my daughter and I, who were also buying produce.

The gentleman, who appeared to be Middle Eastern and who did not speak English very well, had a list of the items that were approved for purchase with food stamps. It seemed the only fruit available was cantaloupe, as apparently, the food stamp approved items had to be locally grown. The man wanted some grapes—they were right in front of him and were, indeed, beautiful. No, he was told, you can’t buy those. As the young lady turned to get the items he had bought, I said to him,

Would you like some of those grapes? I’ll buy some for you.

He seemed to understand and nodded and pointed to the bags of white grapes.

When the lady who was helping April and I returned I said,

I want to buy a bag of those grapes for this gentleman.

No, we don’t allow that, she said.

I was sort of stunned.

Don’t allow…but I want to buy them.

Meanwhile the gentleman collected his bags and turned and walked away.

We don’t want our customers to feel sympathy and buy things like that.

But I do feel sympathy; I feel compassion for him.

She shook her head and went to get the strawberries and blueberries I had requested. When she returned, she said,

You don’t know the whole story.

I just wanted to buy him some grapes.

I could see that April was visibly quite upset. We paid for our produce and walked away. As we stepped outside I reached over and touched April and said

Sweetie

She immediately started crying.  With tears pouring down her cheeks, on the cobbled street outside the big market doors, my daughter wept for the sins of God’s people. It’s hard to actually capture with words, the anguish and anger that April expressed.

Why are people like that? They’re so careful to wear their little skirts* and act so righteous, and then be so mean. What does it matter what the whole story was.

We continued talking on our drive to Costco, as we walked through the store, and as we drove home. And here’s what I believe.

I believe I am so blessed, as to be given children whose hearts are toward the poor. I believe that both compassion and righteous anger are gifts from God, which as they mature, will bring glory back to Him. I believe that Christianity as we know it and see it practiced around us, has lost its way. Had Jesus been standing beside us at that produce stand in market, I believe the lady behind the stand would have turned him away.

I was reminded of the trip I took with my elderly parents to Brooklyn, to visit the beautiful and inspiring Brooklyn Tabernacle and hear the choir sing. And how on that trip home, passengers on the bus were making harsh and unkind judgments of people who were demonstrating in the park. And how in the darkness inside the bus, I wept. Tears of anger then conviction as Spirit moved in my heart, reminding me of the love of God for all people, even those arrogant smug elderly ladies.

As April prepared to leave for work, I wondered with her, whether maybe God would bring our conversation back to the produce lady’s mind later today. And maybe, just maybe, she’ll wonder if there’s another way. 

*The stand is owned by a conservative Christian family; all the female employees wear skirts--no jeans or shorts.


2 comments:

  1. Oh Nancy, you said so eloquently what the challenge of faith is. I don't think it's our place to judge whether people are right or wrong, but it is our place to serve the poor. And yet, if I saw people taking advantage of a system day in and day out, would I be able to refrain from judging? Wouldn't I get discouraged? I'm not saying that man was trying to take advantage of anyone, only that perhaps that woman had seen too much. And lost they eyes of love?
    No answers, here. But gratitude that you were able to talk to April and continue to have her look at people through your compassionate eyes.

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  2. Unbelievable. I would like to hear her "whole story" because WHAT THE HECK. It's not like you offered to buy him drugs or booze or cigarettes.

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